Why are relationships so complicated?

Ok, so for those of you that are or have been in a long term relationship may understand why I ask this question. It's crazy how complicated they can be and much stress and petty arguments that come with being in one. 


I think the one thing that I've learnt is that TRUST and RESPECT is "the cure and the cause" of a stable or unstable relationship based on its current status. Having complete trust and honesty definitely makes it work, and is more likely to have far less complications. However, lack or broken trust will cause the relationship to break down and it is really difficult to get back to "how it was before" after that point.....trust me I'm telling you from experience :/ 


I don't see why males encourage one another to be "players" and give into this peer pressure? If they don't want to be in a relationship then don't lie and cheat, be single and promiscuous. EURRRRGH..... Sorry about that #RantOver. I shouldn't stereotype, but I am yet to meet someone who differs from this! Arguably girls are just as bad and cheat too. I'm not condoning this BUT the females I know that have cheated, most of them did so AFTER finding out their boyfriend has been cheating. I won't question this too much now; lets save that for another post :)


Anyway this leads me onto maturity....or lack of :/ I think this is definitely a factor that affects how complicated a relationship is. The ability to understand and sensitise in certain situations is essential for it to work. However, being selfish and jealous can make this difficult to achieve, as the understanding and sensitivity is over shadowed by being self absorbed; which can really complicate the running of the relationship. It can be used in a way which can manipulate the other person into thinking they are doing wrong when they are not! ALARM BELLS SHOULD BE RINGING AT THIS POINT. 


And now on to the two that grate me the most, LIES and SECRETIVENESS. Now, these bad boys are probably the most destructive and painful complications of a relationship.This all links in with the first point I made about trust..... Hiding things from your partner and lying causes them to question the trust they have for you. CRACKS APPEAR. 


Rihanna sums up her experience in "Complicated"








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