Why do people cheat within relationships?

Right this is a subject that really grates me. I fail to understand the logic behind cheating, AND how the culprit thinks they won't get found out; even if it's years later. It's ridiculous. LIES CATCH UP WITH YOU PLAYERS! My view is if you want to cheat BE SINGLE. Although for some reason many people are greedy and want have their cake and eat it, the best of both worlds so to speak. I mean being at the receiving end of lies, deceit and cheating is generally unexplainable. It's the ultimate betrayal. What's worse is when you stick with that person once they have broken your trust, and it's virtually impossible to get the relationship back to how it was prior to that. Obviously there are conflicting arguments with this statement; but believe me I'm telling you from my experience. 

I've found that the worst thing I did was stick with the person that literally broke every ounce of trust I ever put in him, for him to keep doing the same thing over and over again. The hardest thing is breaking out of that pattern. So a bit advice for you readers, once someone betrays your trust, think very hard about getting back into that relationship and think of the implications and changes that may come as a result of it. You should consider how they were treating you before the trust was broken. Did they take you for granted, speak to you like you are worthless, beckon on you when it was convenient for them and anything else along those lines...? If so GET RID! I reckon I only accepted this treatment because I craved his genuine affection and acceptance. You cannot change a person! So don't ever try to as it will all end in tears. Another thing I have learnt is that the only person that can change you is yourself. So...What happened? I was hurt far more than I probably would have been if I had just ended it in the first place. It's also resulted in me having trust issues with people generally, which really isn't fair at all on them. 

Now, if the culprit starts to dig up the smallest things that are irrelevant and have nothing to do with broken trust; but imply you have; ALARM BELLS SHOULD START RINGING. Reverting and flipping a situation like that generally indicates THEY ARE THE GUILTY ONES! What they're doing is looking for dirt on you to argue so it takes the attention and suspicion off them, it's also a sign of insecurity and paranoia. These too are indications of a guilty conscience. Don't let this fool you or make you feel guilty when you have done nothing wrong. An example of my own I can use to outline this in simpler terms for you, is me speaking to a friend innocently on MY WALL POST on Facebook that EVERYONE CAN SEE and then the culprit kicking up a fuss about it, accusing me of all sorts for me to then find out he was STILL lying about his ex, that was the reason the trust was broken in the first place. Now that little Facebook issue was the only thing the culprit brought up throughout of the rest of our relationship EVERY TIME his lies got caught out. DO NOT allow someone to manipulate you like that! 

There is no excuse for cheating BUT some people may cheat because they feel insecure within the relationship. The other person may make them feel like they are being cheated on or HAVE cheated on them in the past, resulting in them doing the same. DO NOT DO IT! Don't stoop down to their level, if you ever feel like that; end it. Revenge really isn't all that sweet, and you'll end up hurting yourself more. 




Now here's a few video's that play out a few different scenarios in regards to cheating

Uploaded to YouTube by RihannaVEVO on 23 Nov 2009




Uploaded to YouTube by KeyshiaColeVEVO on 16 Jun 2009



Uploaded to YouTube by AshantiVEVO on 22 Nov 2009



Uploaded to YouTube by WAVYExclusiveTV on 18 Apr 2010